Most people have an idea of the four elements: Earth -- Air ---- Fire -- Water. As someone who's used to doing things for herself, it has been hard going asking for help. Now that I'm used to it (kinda, I still have my moments), I've realised it's the most perfect way to create. Why? Because we are all connected.
I'm well aware that my Air tendencies frustrate some. Scattered conversations are not easy for those who prefer logic with no deviations from the plan. Easily distracted by shiny and pretty things = frustrating for those who prefer stability. And I could beat myself up about it. Or I could realise that some people and I are never meant to hang out. Or, perhaps that really annoying person who keeps trying to make me be practical actually has something to contribute - their analytical foresight keeps the plan on track. Rather than the plan being derailed because I forgot to consider some random detail (again).
We have the capacity to treat ourselves terribly based on our perceived inadequacies. But when you stop and look at what's not working for you it's possible to decide if it's something you really want to change. If so, go for it. If not, perhaps it's a skill you can outsource. For example, housework and I - we're never going to get along. I don't mind cleaning, I find it quite meditative. It does, however, have the capacity to get in the way of my creations and that's just not on. And so, one day, I will outsource that little sucker to someone who really enjoys it. They give me the gift of a clean house. I give them the gift of being able to vacuum up copious amounts of cat fur. Win win.
When you add in the missing element - love - you have the capacity to view yourself in a new light. What works. What doesn't. What you'd like to do differently. And if you can't, who can you create with that will add in a way you never imagined. Sure, there will be arguments but that's simply a sign you've created something more magical than you would ever have been able to achieve by creating alone.
We are all connected. It is by working together that we achieve the ultimate outcome - creating with love.
In this series I reflect on things that I used to see as wrong about myself and why they're actually quite right. Not because I know best, but because sometimes the things that other people tell you are a problem are actually what make you perfect. And, with a bit of self-reflection, it's possible to create a reframe that shows you have strengths you never imagined possible. But only when you come from love